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Ray and Bob
1996

"…using phonics has really helped us." Bob has relied on this informal approach of sounding out words and later understanding their meaning through context within the sentence. Ray has responded in a way that illustrates the power of reading and learning. This is more than a story about phonics but of a story of renewal and recovery.

Ray's home life previous to graduation from high school was one of both sexual and emotional abuses. His "family values" taught him ways of dealing with problems that are both contrary to social acceptance as well as Ray's own view of what he really wanted out of life.

After graduation, Ray became painfully aware that he couldn't read. This was most difficult when he would attempt to read to his nieces and nephews. As Ray read, he would fake the pronunciation and meaning of words. His listeners quickly became wise when the meaning often did not match the attached illustration. At this point, Ray decided to improve his reading skills. He would learn to read to please his nieces and nephews.

Ray was Bob's first learner. Bob, a retired business man, was looking for ways to meaningfully contribute to a community he has been part of for many years. He brought to Ray a methodical and consistent approach to learning that Ray responded well to immediately. There were other qualities about Bob that Ray would soon learn to appreciate.

After one year and an accumulation of life's difficulties, Ray reverted to the only approach he knew while growing up. As a result, Ray served jail time and was put on probation in a half-way house. His life now was overseen by a payee and a probation officer. Ray knew that he enjoyed his time of learning and reading but became aware that it was something he enjoyed and needed not for his nieces and nephew, but for himself. He needed it to build his self confidence and begin to plan his future. A decision to continue was delayed since he was reluctant to contact his friend and tutor, Bob.

Ray was not aware of two other qualities of Bob; his sense of caring and his non-judgmental outlook. Ray became aware of this as he was walking down the street and was offered a ride by Bob. Along with the ride, Bob suggested they get together and read again.

Typical reading now consists of learning about the fascinating world around him. Ray and Bob learn primarily by the phonics method. This method has given him confidence in his ability to master the written word. Ray was also encouraged to be a tutor and now helps his friend Sherry. This has reinforced his reading while building another healthy relationship as well. He also keeps a diary of daily thoughts and events.

Ray has a plan for the future. He has discovered his ability in small engine repair. He plans to attend the local community college to learn more math and draft reading. He then hopes to further his training in the machine trades. Ray is also interested in pursuing studies in Pentecostal ministry.

Ray now has a positive attitude and approach to life. He looks forward to buying a car, studying more to acquire a trade, and becoming a minister. Asked what has influenced his life in the most positive way, Ray responded it was Bob who taught him self reliance and a belief in himself. What qualities of Bob have made this happen? "…he really cares!"

Interview by Stan Kronenburger